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Mon Dec 1, 2008 6:50 PM
Gwen
FL
husband
alcohol
yes
Family Anonymous
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I just located it online and joined. Looking over the testimonials of some, I realized that they were talking about my life.
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God has the final say on what happens with our loved ones. Trust him to get you through whatever comes your way. Somehow, this all fits into God's plan....God never said that it would always be fun or easy just fullfilled and blessed his way.
Tue Aug 26, 2008 12:25 AM
Alex
ND
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USA
Wed Dec 5, 2007 5:13 PM
sIMONE
NY
HUSBAND
HEROIN
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My husbands problem has taken over his life and taken on one of it's own who's main goal is to alienate and humiliate me so that it can continue. I realize that he is gone forever but I keep hoping that some day, he'll come back. After reading some of the comments, I know that may just not be possible and staying with him is only adding to the problem.
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No matter what happens or how many times they (the addict) tells you you are worthless, pick yourself up and get back to WORK! Don't let yourself disappear down that rabbit hole and always remember, this is not your problem unless you somehow support it.
Mon Sep 10, 2007 9:28 AM
APRIL
NC
MY HUSBAND
ALCOHOL AND MARAJUANA
NO
YES. I AM AT MY LAST WITTS. I REALLY DON'T KNOW WHAT ELSE TO DO. IT HAS GOTTEN WHERE I CANNOT STAND MY HUSBAND. I LOVE HIM BUT HE JUST WON'T OR CAN'T DO ANYTHING TO CHANGE.
Tue Apr 17, 2007 7:09 AM
Kathy
IL
son
marajuana, whatever else not sure
no
yeah
I have no words of wisdom right now. I have been going thru tis with my son for almost three years and just dont know what to do anymore, it is affecting everyone in our household. I need someone to give me words of wisdom, on how to deal with all this. I just dont know what to do anymore.
Wed Mar 7, 2007 11:27 AM
susan
FL
two daughters 25&20
heroin
no
Yes I did find that I am not the only one dealing with the same issue. I just read jen's last report. I did what you did took my grandson and moved I tried for six years. All kinds of help thinking this time it might work I finally realised I needed to not have it my face it Was tearing me apart. I still think about them every day, but I put in God's hands.
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I know some people think if they give up trying that it is wrong. Your only enabling them to keep doing what they are doing. You can still be supportive, but in the back ground. Sometimes If you don't let go they will bring you down with them Emotionally,depends what you are dealing with. Good luck to all!Susan
Thu Dec 14, 2006 8:33 PM
Denise Commire
FL
Husband
Crack,alcohol,percaset
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I will eventually get it through my head, my husband is on a collision course with life, I fear he will someday get so depressed and hurt himself, or be in the hood buying drugs and get himself hurt, or owe money because of this addiction, I think that years of therapy might help but he dont admit how bad things are
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take care of myself, let it go
Tue Oct 10, 2006 1:35 PM
Tess
WA
husband
alcohol
no
went to 1 al-anon years ago, mother is also alcoholic.
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Nice to be able to be in a place where others are battling the same mess. I get very, very frustrated. So frustrated that I want to sell the house, pack up and leave with our son. and never to return. this is how I feel today.
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I don't know... I grew up with an alcoholic mother, and she still drinks. she is 65, I am 45. Parents divorced when I was six. That's when my world shattered. It was never the same after that.
I have struggled all my life with self esteem issues, rejection, weight problems, depression... and I am with a man who is a chronic alcoholic. We are miles apart, yet live in the same house. He's on one end of the house, and I on the other.... Why do I stay? My son, our son. He is 5 years old. I don't want his life to be shattered the way mine was. But there are days, many days that I have put the house up for sale, told him to leave, we were separated for 6 months last year, he came back with promises,, blah blah blah...... and here I am another year - and am thinking of actually having an emotional affair with someone. No sex, just companionship. Not interested in sex anymore.
My words of wisdom - don't get involved with anyone with an addiction. your life will be miserable.
Tess
Seattle, WA
Sun Sep 10, 2006 7:10 PM
Ashley
MN
my dad
crack
no
Yes. It is nice to know there are people out there like me that can understand what its like struggling with a family member who has an addiction.
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Sat Jul 22, 2006 7:46 PM
marie
FL
my husband
methadone
no
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i'm looking for some support or understanding of the drug.
i dont understand my husbands crazy actions and sometimes dont know what to do please help!!!
Tue Feb 7, 2006 5:00 PM
skata
me
cocaine
no
ok
i dont know if you get in how you get out..its easy to get in nad no escape though,...
Sat Oct 15, 2005 8:02 PM
Witchy
CA
I did....and my husband does still
marijuana , for both of us and Alcohol for him aswell
Yes
Alanon, and 8/23/05
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Yes very much so....I felt that I was alone, which I now know I am not...I also got some really great advise, from some really caring people.
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Dont just ask for help, listen and do it!
Fri Oct 7, 2005 8:56 PM
Knowsbetter
HI
Me
Meth
No
n/a
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Yes, I did. I found that is spelled out my feelings and fears. Especially the fear of others knowing who I really am and how much shame I feel....and that hole in my soul.
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Sometimes doing something for myself is hard, but I try to do it anyway; I daily choose to go from "Evaluating" who I am, to "Valuing" who I am.
Also, I am finding that It can just take a short, wrong-turn to being lost for a very, long-time...I must stay awakened and ever so aware.
Sun Sep 25, 2005 10:53 AM
Tracy
AS
I do and of course my family
many! Alcohol, speed, pot, gamblig ect
no
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I have only filled out the above, any advice and support without the contact can only be for the better
If I myself believe in it.
Each individual is unique and has a specific reason for being here. Life will constantly challenge us and the decisions made will be our own. We have a choice. We must take responsibility of the choices we make, whatever the outcome. Find and take the good out of each situation, it may not be obvious at the time but it's there. Know who you are and like who you are. Believe in yourself. Know what you want from life and do your best.Don't waste time and energy on the WHY! Leave the past there. Learn and teach from lifes lessons. Never say die. Soldier on. Just do it! Take it easy! Day at a time!
Sun Sep 25, 2005 10:08 AM
Tracy
AS
I do and of course my family
many! Alcohol, speed, pot, gamblig ect
Sat Sep 3, 2005 8:34 AM
Tink
CA
Me Me Me
Heroin
yes
A.A. 4 years
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Yes people that post are in dire straights and if nothing it keeps me humble. I know I can not get anyone sober or drunk, but I can share my experience strengths and hopes with them.
already have
Not so much as wisdom as what I have gotten was not from my thinking as it was a mess. But from being willing to not put any mind altering chemicals in my body long enough to get out of denial and think as a sober person about my life and actions. Today I do wish I had listened to others a long time ago, would have saved me a lot of physical problems, however I am so happy to be alive that I will take it anyday over any mind altering substance. I am high on life and what a miracle that is...as I could of never of done this without the help of the 12 steps and the fellowship of Alcoholics and Narcotics Anonymous..I am free.
Thu Aug 11, 2005 6:39 PM
leenie
FL
Myself, son, daughter inlaw, father, brothers
alcohol, herion, all kinds of drugs
no
I have been clean for 8 years
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Yes this is a great site because people tell it like it is. I think most people who write on this site seem like they want help.
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Thu Jul 14, 2005 2:19 PM
Tony
CA
I did, some of my family
Cocaine, alcohol, marijuana
yes
Narcotics Anonymous - Clean date 8/23/90
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Yes, this by far has been one of the most helpful sites I have been apart of. Have met some great people here who I have come to care about.
All the time!
1. "Perhaps the best thing for me is to remember that my serenity is inversely proportional to my expectations."
2. "You got to get to the root of the problem." -Big Jim, my first sponsor who died with over 40 years sober.
3. Family will love us to death if we let them. Codependency and enabling makes family members lives miserable, but it kills us (the addict).
4. In helping a man to get to the top of the mountain, I realised that I too had climb the mountain.
Thu Jul 7, 2005 9:16 AM
Tink
CA
Heroin
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Do every day
There is nothing that a drink, fix or pill will fix....Nothing!!!!
Life is way better than I prayed it would be now that i put the chemistry sets away..just needed to stay the course and not quit 5 minutes before the miracle.
The easier softer way never works.